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  1. Lindsay @ Let Me Give You Some Advice
    February 16, 2017 @ 3:07 pm

    Thank you, this was helpful! It reminds me that I can still give back even as a new blogger. Any suggestions on finding a good conference for blogging. Some of them seem so big that it’s kind of intimidating but I’d love to find some smaller ones that might help build some real relationships.

    • Kristen Millican
      February 16, 2017 @ 10:50 pm

      I’m wondering the same thing about blogging conferences. Having a list of a few recommended conferences would be really helpful! Thanks for the post. It’s exactly what I needed to hear. Networking is an area of weakness for me, and I believe this post helped to challenge me to take a step in the right direction! Thank you Ruth!

    • Eileen
      February 25, 2017 @ 4:20 am

      Wow, your work is amazing! Am just getting started on blogging and I had fear on how to know what the next steps are, but you have everything I need to know. Thank you for being the helping hand I get and just when I need one.

  2. Katie @ Rebelsaurus
    February 16, 2017 @ 3:12 pm

    Awesome post. 🙂 I’m totally an introvert so whenever I hear that I should be “networking” I want to run and hide, but you made the idea of relationship building seem so much more approachable here.

    • Hannah Stevenson
      February 16, 2017 @ 7:24 pm

      I just want to say that I love the name of your blog! Totally made me click over. Your site is clean and beautiful too. Just thought I’d let you know. 🙂

  3. Fern Cohen
    February 16, 2017 @ 3:16 pm

    Even though I already knew these things, I will be sure to put “read other blogs” on my weekly list of priorities. It’s true that commenting on other writers’ blogs can mean clicks on yours. And, it’s also true that referring to an entry on someon else’s blog can be more than just appreciated — it can lead to a friendship with other bloggers. Thanks for reminding me.

  4. Nicole | The Professional Mom Project
    February 16, 2017 @ 3:41 pm

    Love this advice. I really like reading other people’s blogs and commenting it’s such a fun part of the blogging community.

  5. Catherine
    February 16, 2017 @ 3:45 pm

    I don’t know that I’d say I’ve paid anything forward yet (I probably need to be actually getting past 1k views/month for that, lol). However, I do like to give encouragement to bigger bloggers I follow have expressed concern or insecurity about what they are doing (whether it be publishing income reports or simply a direction that they are scared to go into). We all need support (The ENFP in me is totally coming out, lol) even if your making 7 figures a year, people need people! 🙂

  6. Krishna
    February 16, 2017 @ 4:52 pm

    Thanks for sharing this. I’m an introvert too and so I sometimes feel “safer” blogging from behind my computer screen rather than being out and networking. I know that’s one of the things that needs to be done. Now it’s just a matter of getting out of my comfort zone a little bit! 🙂

  7. Sandy
    February 16, 2017 @ 5:18 pm

    I’ve sort of fallen away from linking to other bloggers as I have created more content of my own. I will make more of an effort to get back into doing that!

  8. Ayanna
    February 16, 2017 @ 6:16 pm

    These are some great points!!! It’s so important in blogging to build relationship and support each other. I never thought about linking to other bloggers within one of my own posts. That’s an awesome way to connect and show my readers some of the blogs that I read as well.

  9. Susan
    February 16, 2017 @ 6:39 pm

    Thank you, Ruth, for the wonderful tips! I’m looking forward to building relationships through my little spot on the internet.

    • Nicole
      February 21, 2017 @ 11:48 am

      Ayanna, I have to say…I went on your site and within 20 seconds had it bookmarked in a folder called “Blogs I love” lol I can’t wait to really dig in and read! The first three posts I noticed really spoke to me, so I’m sure I’ll be back over and over. Great site!!

  10. Michele Riggsbee
    February 16, 2017 @ 6:43 pm

    This is an excellent reminder! I had the privilege of meeting one of the very first bloggers I started following several years ago at The Becoming Conference last summer. I started to introduce myself to her and when I started to tell her my name she said my last name before I did! Mind you she had no idea of what I looked like! Then she and I met again last fall at a quilt store when she was promoting her new fabric line and recognized me again. I was genuinely blown away by her friendliness!

    We have emailed each other many times and have even chatted on the phone! I am truly blessed to call her a friend and a mentor in the blogging community. She has already asked if I would help promote her book when it releases later this year! I about fainted and needless to say I was thrilled to be offered such a terrific opportunity. I’m looking forward to seeing her again at the Haven Conference in Atlanta in July! I can’t wait to meet many more of the bloggers I follow and to grow and learn with such an amazing community of wonderful people! I hope to have my blog go live soon. Thanks for such a great post!

  11. Adrian | Adrianscrazylife
    February 16, 2017 @ 7:20 pm

    I think the power of face to face connections are often overlooked. That’s why I make a real effort to attend as many blog conferences, workshops and local blogger events as I can. Why not? There are always friends, fun, good food, usually swag and prizes and I’ve never come away without learning something. And tonight I am paying it forward – I’m meeting with several local bloggers for a monthly mastermind work night.

  12. Michele
    February 16, 2017 @ 8:27 pm

    This blog post contains so much useful information – wish I were ready to spring it right into action! -…- I have not begun my blog yet- but I am reading “HOW TO BLOG FOR PROFIT …. WITHOUT SELLING YOUR SOUL” …. And I am so grateful for this book!! The value is *incredible*! I have paid FAR more for not 1% of the info provided in this book. Highly recommend it!!

    • Brenda McDearmon
      March 4, 2017 @ 7:47 am

      Adrian, I love your site! As a new blogger and a new student of EBA, I’ve got “messaging” and “crystal clear” everything on the brain right now! Your site is crystal clear about who you are, and I look forward to reading more. Thanks to Ruth for these tips about paying it forward – what a great foundation for newbies like me.

  13. Melanie Lawson
    February 16, 2017 @ 9:56 pm

    Awesome post. As a brand newbie to the blogging world, I can appreciate your advice and I agree with paying it forward. All the best!

  14. Deborah Baggett
    February 16, 2017 @ 10:24 pm

    I am new to blogging, in fact I am gathering information before I start. I must say that your posts and resources have helped me tremendously. I look forward to taking the Elite Blog Academy class. I love your blog and the fact that you believe in paying it forward. All the best to you.

  15. Rebecca
    February 17, 2017 @ 12:08 am

    Great Content! I’m exploring the idea of earning by blogging and this platform seems so helpful. It’s only two days back that I sensed the urge to leave a comment on posts that I felt I could relate to (just showing some courtesy). And here I am reading your advice on connecting genuinely! Thank you Ruth.

  16. Laurie
    February 17, 2017 @ 8:35 am

    Thank you for the great advice, I’m new to blogging and you have been a tremendous help! Looking forward to taking your class!

  17. Lo Tanner | All That Motivates
    February 17, 2017 @ 9:26 am

    I love what you have to say about guest posting. I read all day (well, often enough) on Pinterest that guest posting is dead and not worth the time and effort. BUT when you look at from the stance of connecting with other people and building relationships I can see it being a valuable tool. One of those reminders that some things aren’t all about the numbers.

    • Mary
      February 28, 2017 @ 4:09 am

      I’m new to blogging too! So much helpful information and sense! However, it seems that it’s important to spend a lot of time researching other bloggers posts as well as finding that sweet time to write your own posts! Maybe I’m just slow….

  18. Bev
    February 17, 2017 @ 10:24 am

    Hi Ruth, this is really an “eye-opener” for me, because I read alot of blogs, but I never really comment or leave a reply. I will definitely do that from now on. Thank you so much for these valuable tips & insights. Will also check out local blogging conferences to meet up with people face to face,. The only blog I actually commented on was a dear friend who helped me create my blog. Forever greatful to her.

    By the way I am from South Africa

  19. Ashley
    February 17, 2017 @ 11:01 am

    I gave back by starting up a closed Facebook group specifically for bloggers in my specific community (Endurance & Trail Riders). It allows other people to share their posts and ideas for new topics.

  20. Pamela Grice
    February 17, 2017 @ 11:39 am

    Thank you for this reminder that “people don’t care how much you know until they know how much you care.” (I don’t know who said that, but I believe it’s true). I just spent the morning encouraging others and now it’s time to get down to the business of planning my day. I so appreciate your insights and wisdom and look forward to growing my (very brand new) blog as the year goes forward!

  21. Cheryl
    February 17, 2017 @ 1:09 pm

    Thanks for the words of wisdom. It saddens me when newbie bloggers view successful bloggers as competition. There’s more than enough room in the virtual world for all of us! I am a newbie blogger myself, but I am encouraged when other (more awesome) bloggers share their income reports as well as tips and tricks for how they grew their blog. Unfortunately, some people view this as bragging. I truly can’t wait for the opportunity to meet my mentors in person! Maybe one day I will become someone newbie bloggers look up to…

  22. Jennifer
    February 17, 2017 @ 7:20 pm

    Yes! Love the suggestions, the hardest part is actually scheduling the time to reach out to other bloggers…. orrr…. not feeling like my blog is substantial enough to even ask! Thank you for the encouragement, Ruth. I’ll never know if I never ask, right?! 🙂

  23. sundae
    February 18, 2017 @ 2:28 pm

    Powerful! Thanks for these inputs Ruth! 🙂

  24. Amy
    February 18, 2017 @ 6:04 pm

    This is so very helpful, I am a very newbie blogger (I only have 3 published posts!) I feel like I am learning so much every day and sometimes it is overwhelming but I am motivated to succeed and really appreciate people like you who can share your nuggets of wisdom with those of us just starting out!

  25. Linda Green
    February 21, 2017 @ 11:47 pm

    Interesting enough, I was having this same general conversation today in an accountability group. I haven’t even started my blog, but I have been reading up on the “networking” side of it. Thanks for explaining this much better than I did! And I did share the link with my group. Thanks!

  26. Mariana
    February 22, 2017 @ 1:24 am

    How insightful. This truly resonates with me and with what I’m trying to do with my blog. I have a quick question though — if you have linked to another blogger/website how do you go about letting that person know? I’ve got quite a few links to other people/organizations on my site and I have not made them aware of this. Any feedback would be great! Thank you !
    Marianna
    http://www.wisecoreconfessions.com

  27. Karina
    February 22, 2017 @ 5:40 am

    I don’t know why but connecting with other bloggers seems like the hardest part of blogging! There is always so much work to do on my blog, that taking the time to build meaningful relationships virtually is super overwhelming. I think I’ve been afraid and unsure of how to reach out. I love your advice to try to do nice things for other bloggers…it would take the pressure off and help others at the same time…wahoo!
    Thanks!

  28. Linda Warner
    March 9, 2017 @ 10:22 pm

    Right now, I feel like a puddle of warm butter. I am so relieved!!!! You have described me to a t. I’ve paid an unreasonable amount of money and time to a company to teach me how to “work the internet to make money” They will help me do this and that and all I have to do is become so confused that I go to bed with a bottle of sleeping pills. I’ve listened to MANY ‘free’ webinars and read too many “3, 5 or 7 most important ways to get started blogging” that I was totally confused. I LITTERALY had no idea what I should make a priority and what I could ignore till later. I also have a life outside of wanting to blog and it became a confused mess because I could not think straight.
    I’ve been following your posts for a while but this one, yes THIS ONE made it all make sense. I have so many people to unsubscribe from that I might have to just get a new email address. I really wish I had found this about a year ago. It would have saved me a lot of grief. Bloggers conferences – I didn’t even know they existed. I guess my email address is right after all.
    Ruth, I don’t know where to start saying thank you but I’ll be following a lot closer from now on. Thanks for blogging to me!

  29. Menangsilig S kastai
    March 9, 2017 @ 11:36 pm

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  30. Robie Lynn
    March 14, 2017 @ 11:36 pm

    I have only been blogging for 4 months trying to do my best while working full time. I have heard this concept several times, and it just makes sense. We really are a community and Ruth has said many times, there is not competition and you can’t feel like others have already taken your niche. There’s plenty out there! I was writing a post about Toxic friends (with a twist) and while I decided to google I came across a blog that was awesome. I commented and told her that was my intent and I was thankful to come across her blog and that I wanted to “quote” some of her. She took the time to comment back and I felt like a partnership was formed. I have reached out to others with “Catchy” names and how they use them and would be great to incorporate into a blog, and they have thanked me and just ask for the credit, which of course I would do that!

    So yes this concept is awesome. I truly feel like this is a “community” where we can come together and enjoy the different writing styles, opinions, and different niches to really be able to feel creative with and reach out without feeling inferior.

    I would love to time to be able to stop and take a look at all these different blogging sites, but my golly there just isn’t enough time! But, one day! Some Day! I will! Looking for some bloggy friends….RL

  31. Nat
    March 21, 2017 @ 11:51 pm

    Thank you for such an awesome post! I am so proud of myself now (hehe), as I have been linkinng to other people’s sites and Youtube channels in my posts, just because I like their posts and videos and think others will like them too. No money earned 🙂 I was not even sure it was acceptable in the bloggers’ world. Thanks to you I now know it is a great thing to do and I don’t need to worry about bloggers being mad at me 🙂